#CITY OF SECRETS VS INNER WORLD GAMES MOVIE#

In life we have a tendency to compare our insides with other peoples’ outsides – that is, we consider our feelings of low self-esteem against the apparent confidence of those around us and in the media.īut when you meet and get to know rich, famous and prominent people who appear to have the world at their feet you discover that actually they are just like us – unsure, sometimes afraid, and to a certain extent putting on an act.

You should be the same – whatever life throws at you, never doubt in your ability to ascend. At times he appears to be cornering them, and then something will happen leaving him in a precarious, sometimes deadly situation.īut despite the ups and downs James Bond never doubts himself because, well, he’s James Bond and he is cognizant of his fundamental value. He is battling against Spectre, a formidable criminal organisation. Think about James Bond in No Time To Die. Many people go through ups and downs through the years – from rags to riches, back to rags, and then onto riches once more. Life is not necessarily a single linear path from low status to high status.

#CITY OF SECRETS VS INNER WORLD GAMES MOVIE#

In A Movie The Hero Goes Through Many Trials And Tribulations But Never Doubts Himself Instead of taking that as your cue to sulk and hide for the rest of the evening, you should stride forth confident in the knowledge that just because she happened not to be attracted to you doesn’t mean that you are not an attractive man due to your inherent qualities. If you ground your self-esteem in the internal rather than the external then short-term setbacks will phase you less.įor example, imagine you get rejected by a beautiful woman in an upscale cocktail lounge. Instead, it should be based on the confidence you have in your own innate qualities and capabilities Self-esteem should not come from external things like how much money you have, what cars you drive and so on. Self-esteem Is Based On Your Certainty Of Your Own Capabilities So it’s your job to go out and present yourself as a debonair and commanding man even if that’s not how you’re feeling in the moment. Your Actions Need Not Match Your FeelingsĪbsolutely huge – just because you feel inferior and depressed inside, it doesn’t mean you have to act like it.ĭespite all the positive self-talk in the world we can’t always control our feelings, but we can control the way in which we act. Thus, if you walk into the cocktail lounge with the air of a sophisticated and successful man of the world – and you do so in a congruent manner – then the women around you are likely to take this at face value and see you as an attractive option.Īgain, though, the caveat is that at a certain point the lustre of the illusion you have cultivated will fade, so you must ‘do the work’ in increasing your real-world value at the same time. People Tend To Believe What You PresentĪ huge realisation for me was that people tend to believe what you put out there into the world (for a while, at least) which is why 1 is true. The massive caveat, though, is that you must simultaneously work on your ACTUAL value, as perceived value will only take you so far. The implication, after all, is that you can simply sit on your butt and pretend to be awesome even though you’re really just a shlub.īut the fact is that presenting as the person that you aspire to be DOES work in social situations, and it will get you more traction in dating.įor example, the man who sweeps confidently across the room in a Primark suit that cost $80 will command more initial attention than the nervous millionaire cowering in the corner in Armani. ‘Fake it ‘til you make it’ gets bad press in the self-development space which is not surprising. Fake It ‘til You Make It DOES Work – Up To A Point Without further ado, here are my top 10 inner game secrets.

City of secrets vs inner world games